What Strings Are Attached

When my kids were young, and I exclusively stayed home with them, they opened presents and ate pink pancakes for breakfast on Valentine’s Day, enjoyed a fancy dinner that evening, and the secret Valentine man always delivered dessert.  

On St. Patrick’s day, they woke up to gold candy all over the kitchen, they were treated to Lucky Charms, and for dinner, had green chicken alfredo with homemade Irish soda bread.  

None of that was required to be a good mom.  

They were strings that I attached to being a mom.  

One holiday season, when I was teaching school full-time and working in my coaching business, the pancakes, presents, gold candy, fancy dinners, all stopped.  

Not intentionally, so at first, I felt horrible for not living up to the “mom that I created”.  

But you know what?  

Not a single girl said a word about the missing pancakes, fancy dinner, or green food.  

I thought those actions and hard work made a BIG impact on their experience, but I realized I was wrong when they didn’t miss them.  

I took inventory and cut some of those strings using up time, money, and mental energy, and not giving me the results or desired benefits.

I cut strings that didn’t align with the MOM AND BUSINESS OWNER that I wanted to be.

I cut the ones that started with 

“I should” “I need” “but good moms”…

I don’t regret the days of “FUN” celebrations!  And at the time, when my kids were little, I loved doing those things for them (or so I thought).  

But since cutting the strings, I intentionally added back in those that I wanted for each holiday.

I love my motherhood so much more, and we all enjoy the holidays even more because each thing we do is intentional and serves the desired purpose.

The Overscheduled Mom

Let me tell you about someone that you may have met before!  

Once upon a time, there was a mom that got caught in the trap of over-scheduling. ⁠

She thought she was too busy, and that she didn’t have enough time for everything, so she tried to make up for her lack of time by scheduling in ALL THE THINGS. ⁠

When she looked at her schedule, the one with ALL THE THINGS on it, she would often feel defeated, feel behind even before she started, and as a result, she didn’t love her schedule, and she didn’t do ALL THE THINGS. ⁠

Because she didn’t get ALL THE THINGS completed, she beat herself up, thinking she is lazy, incapable, too busy, and exhausted.  ⁠

She decided to move the things she didn’t do to the next day, a day that was already over-scheduled. ⁠

When that next day went the same way the other previous 29 days had gone, she gave up and stopped scheduling her day, because after all, ⁠

“what’s the point, it never gets done anyway?”    ⁠

Does this mom sound like you? ⁠

How can she stop this vicious cycle?  ⁠

By understanding her priorities and SCHEDULING IN WHITE SPACE!  ⁠

I preach you don’t have to have every single hour of every day scheduled with to-do’s.   ⁠

I teach the unplanned hour and plan B. ⁠

They are GAME CHANGERS!!  

If you want to get more done, while actually doing less and feeling accomplished, you have to know your priorities!  ⁠

Schedule The Feeling

Are you ready for summer? 

The day before my daughter’s wedding, a client contacted me with a scheduling question. ⁣ ⁣ She had a lot going on! ⁣ ⁣ Some timing of her tasks were not in her control. Some time constraints would be placed on her last minute by her part-time job, and some of the things to be scheduled were items she wanted to get done but didn’t have a specific time frame for when they were due. ⁣ 

She asked, “how do I schedule my day with all these unknowns?”

Executing the wedding schedule had me in the middle of these same kinds of unknowns & time constraints that depended on other people. ⁣ 

When life feels like you can’t schedule much, (hello summer and kids home) 𝐈 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞. ⁣ ⁣ 

Although I knew I had x amount of things to accomplish before my daughter’s wedding the next day, I couldn’t schedule when they would be completed due to the variety of tasks and other people’s schedules. ⁣ ⁣ 

𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐈 𝐊𝐍𝐄𝗪 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐚𝐲. ⁣ ⁣ 

I wanted to feel available, kind, and flexible. ⁣ ⁣ 

I wanted to feel like I had enough energy and patience to get it all done happily. ⁣ ⁣ 

Knowing how I wanted to feel helped me get everything accomplished in a way that felt good.

I was able to happily accommodate other’s schedules because I decided beforehand I wanted to 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐚𝐯𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐟𝐥𝐞𝐱𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞. ⁣ ⁣ 

When the table delivery service was 2 hours late, because I scheduled being flexible and kind, 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐮𝐩 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐝 𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐨𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠. ⁣ ⁣ 

When my daughter’s top tear of her cake wasn’t working out, I went home at 9 pm and baked another top tier because 𝐈 𝐬𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲. ⁣ ⁣ 

When life feels out of control, with too many unknowns or unpredictability, I encourage you to 𝐬𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐞 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥. 

The feelings might be the only thing you can fully control some days. 


What You Think About You

If you want people to 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮, you have to be the first person to 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

I encourage you to take a minute to write down all the things you think about yourself.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

𝐃𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭? ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴, life, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘥?⁣⁠

For the better?

For the worse? 

Come on over to IG @ceripaynecoaching and let me know what’s on your list!

I’ll go first! 

I think I’m pretty funny! 

It doesn’t come out very often, (I actually call my funny self “slumber party Ceri”) but when I’m on a roll, it just doesn’t stop… especially the later it gets! Come hang out with me at a retreat if you want to hang out with “slumber party Ceri.” She’s really sarcastic and funny!

What I Hope She Learned

My oldest got married last week. 

Many things went through my head about what I hope I taught her in her short 18 years! 

I pondered, have I modeled to her that 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐢𝐧 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 and her ability to 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐲 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐬 she can change her world, the 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐞𝐫, and the entire world at large with her impact and example. 

𝘐𝘵’𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘺 though

It’s about the impact that women can make in this world!⁣⁣ ⁣

⁣My favorite thing in this entire world is to 𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧 to do the things they were born to do.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣To help them create a path to their possibilities!

I love helping them believe in themselves and their dreams!  

That’s what truly changes the world!! 

Making money is the cherry on top!

What confident people know

Hey you!

Confident people know they aren’t perfect.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

Confident people know that making mistakes is part of the process.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

Confident people know that people judge and criticize. ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

Confident people know those things and 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐮𝐩 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐰𝐚𝐲! ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

Today, on instagram, I shared of time when I let my ego in the way, and as a result, I lost confidence in my great strength!  

I was in a brainstorming meeting with three other women planning out a children’s primary party when someone said to me, 

“Would you please stop talking, you’re making my head hurt!” 

I suddenly became very embarrassed and started judging myself for talking too much and too fast. 

I was mortified with shame and just sat there the rest of the meeting.

As I’ve been helping women generate ideas, goals, and changes in their businesses and motherhood, I remember my super power!  

I’m an excellent idea creator! 

My brain is always thinking! 

Excellent ideas come faster than I can write.

I’ve helped women plan out their successful masterminds with locations, marketing, themes, and speakers ideas that light them up and bring success!

I’ve gotten creative with clients about when and how to hire a VA. What tasks would be best to offload, how to communicate with the VA, and what systems to set up for success. We’ve creatively come up with how to get the most out of a VA for THEM!

I’ve brainstormed with my clients negotiating ideas, emails, and contract options, asking for more money from affiliate sponsors. Everyone has come back with a yes and MORE MONEY! 

If you want a taste of my creative superpower to help you grow your business and motherhood,

click here to sign up for a free session with me.

When I say the word schedule…

What do you think?

When you hear the word SCHEDULE, do you feel intimidated, turned off, overwhelmed, or like freedom is being stripped away from you? 

Cassaundra and Brittney with The Well Well Well Podcast⁠ graciously hosted me on their incredible podcast this week.

If you’re ready to feel more peace and less judgement when your head hits the pillow, then this is the episode for you! ⁠

If you want a little direction about schedules, (or why you aren’t making one), results, priorities, and clarity around time management then click the button below to check out the latest podcast.

Learn how to clean up your to-do list and make it something you WANT to accomplish!  ⁠⁠

If you’re ready to intentionally GROW your business to 

Create More Money 

Create More Time

Create More Clients

Hire Out 

Write the Course

Write the Freebie

Create a Schedule/Quarterly Goal…

without sacrificing the things you value most

I’d be honored to help you figure it out and game plan together!  

Use the button below to schedule a free session with me!

I get asked this all the time.

“How do I know when it’s time to start hiring out in my business?”⁠

Since I work with moms, the first things that often get hired out are ⁠

house cleaning⁠

grocery delivery service ⁠

meal prep/take out⁠

laundry services⁠

babysitting ⁠

When it’s time to make these choices in your business or motherhood, consider asking yourself the questions (SWIPE)⁠

These questions will help you gain clarity for when to considering hiring out other services as well, such as ⁠

an assistant⁠

a VA⁠

an add or SM manager⁠

website or graphic designer⁠

a business coach/course⁠

a copywriter/editor⁠

That’s a lie

Do you know what you want?  

Many of my clients say, 

“𝘐’𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘐 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵.” ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

I tell them, “𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘢 𝘭𝘪𝘦.” ⁣⁠

We know what we want! We are just afraid of what it *might* take to get it. ⁣⁠

We are afraid that we can’t accomplish it successfully. ⁣⁠ ⁣

We are scared that we might fail.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

We worry about what other people will think of us.  

We realize a desire; then, we tell ourselves stories such as ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠

it’s selfish to want more of that⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

it’s not necessary to have that (𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘮𝘺 𝘭𝘪𝘦)⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

it will cost too much money⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

it will take away from my motherhood⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

I won’t be able to juggle all of it⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

I am not smart enough to _______⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

Instead of telling yourself all the reasons why you can’t do something in your business, consider telling yourself all the reasons why it could be possible!!! ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

If you want better results, more time, less overwhelm, or more money, 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞!⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

Figure out what you want and why, and then 𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐢𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞! ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠

There’s not a rush to complete your dreams. ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

There’s not a rush to grow your business. ⁠ ⁣⁠ 

Take all the time you need. ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

Please, just stop telling yourself the lies that are holding you back!

The Worst Thing That’s Ever Happened

Have you ever known a school teacher to quit mid-school year?

Six years ago, I was that teacher!

We are natural storytellers, and we often use that gift to our detriment.

I told myself the worst of stories about quitting.

I’m done for in the state of Utah.

I’m never going to get another job.

No one will ever trust me again.

To make it worse, I was supposed to begin working at the neighboring school district the next year, and by quitting, I just knew I ruined that opportunity.

The day after I quit, I got a call from the same district asking me to interview for a work from home teaching position.

Quitting mid-year freed me up for one of the most significant opportunities of my career!

During that job work from home position, I developed many of the skills and confidence I use now in my coaching.

Because that position had flexibility, it provided me the time to certify in life and business coaching.

Because of quitting, I am here, helping other women take chances, make changes, build confidence, and create a business and motherhood they love.

“The more we practice looking in the rearview mirror and finding gratitude for the hard times we’ve experienced, the more we start to change our programming.”

When we learn from the hard times, the intensity of our fears in the moment of difficulty will begin to diminish!

That “worst thing that’s ever happened to you,” what are you enjoying now because you went through that experience?

The next time you begin to tell yourself the stories of “this is the worst thing ever,” zoom out a minute and consider that you could be wrong.