Best Lesson Learned

The day before my daughter’s wedding, a client reached out with a scheduling question. She had a lot going on & was feeling overwhelmed! ⁣⁣⁣⁣

Some of the things to be scheduled were items she didn’t have a specific time frame for because others would need to complete their part of the task first. 

Some time constraints would be placed on her last minute by commitments of her part-time job & others’ schedule availability. ⁣ 

The timing of some of her tasks were not in her control. Cue think raising children, semi work emergencies, and websites crashing.

She asked me, “how I schedule my day with all these unknowns?”

Executing the wedding schedule had me in the middle of these same kinds of unknowns & time constraints that depended on other people. 

Has your May felt a little like this?⁣⁣

May is often a hectic month for most of us. It’s also the month that leads us into summer! Summer is often looked forward to for the freedom from school demands/schedules, vacations, and lazy days. However,  before we know it, if we aren’t intentional, we feel overwhelmed in the summer and ready for fall. 

When life feels like you can’t schedule much, I encourage you to schedule the feelings you want to have. ⁣⁣⁣⁣

Although I knew I had x amount of things to accomplish before my daughter’s wedding, I couldn’t schedule when they would be completed due to the variety of tasks and other people’s schedules. ⁣⁣⁣⁣

But, I KNEW how I wanted to feel that day. ⁣⁣⁣⁣

I wanted to feel available, kind, & flexible.

I wanted to feel like I had enough energy and patience to get it all done happily.

Knowing how I wanted to feel helped me get everything accomplished in a way that felt good. ⁣⁣⁣⁣

When the table delivery service was 2 hours late, because I scheduled being flexible and kind, I was able to show up in a way that allowed me to be kind and accommodating.   

When my daughter’s top tear of her cake wasn’t working out (yes, my daughter made her own wedding cake), I went home at 9 pm and baked another top tier because I scheduled in patience and energy.

When life feels out of control, with too many unknowns or unpredictability, I encourage you to schedule how you want to feel.⁣⁣

This summer is going to be different than the school year. In some ways that’s awesome, and in some ways, that might feel hard!

Scheduling how you want to feel this summer might be the only thing you can fully control.  

Take a minute to think about how do you want to feel this summer?When you focus on feeling that way, what type of things will you do and not do?   

Decide how you want to feel, and then intentionally plan your schedule with that feeling in mind. If you don’t want to plan a summer schedule, that’s fine too, however, I then, highly encourage you to ask yourself how would a person that wants to feel (then state the feeling you desire) show up today? How would they show up this summer?   

We can do this mamas! We can create memories, spend quality time with our children, and grow our businesses if that’s what you decide you want to do!

There’s A Podcast for That

What’s something that you’ve been struggling with lately? 

As a mom that’s also growing a business, I bet I know a few of the things you’re struggling with.

If fact, I bet I’ve got a podcast for many of them below! 

Are you working to overcome some perfectionism in your home and or business?  

If so, you might want to check out my podcasts with Misty March “How to Overcome Perfectionism as a Momprenuer,” or the one I recorded with Monica at About Progress, “How to Know When You’ve Done Enough Each Day.” Both podcasts are full of practical answers, simple action steps, and mindset shifts for you to try out. ⁣⁣

Are you wishing you had more time?  

“How to maximize your Time as a Busy Mom” is one I recorded with Rachel Nielson on her podcast 3 in 30. This one is a listener favorite and it packed full of simple, practical things you can start today!  

Dr. Jen Riday had me on her podcast, Vibrant Happy Women as a guest to talk about “Setting & Scheduling Your Priorities.”

And, another time related podcast I recored with Misty Marsh to help you use your time with intention, “How to Find More Time & Create a Life You Love.”⁣

Are you seeking more life balance?

You should check out  “How to Balance Mom-life, Work-life and Your Life” with Pam Maass or the one I did with Candace on Thriving with 8, “Work Smarter, Not Harder.”   

If you want a little more balanced life chat with a good dose of priority work mixed in, check out The Well Well Well Podcast “How to Get Crap Done.”⁣

Have you wished you were better at creating and sticking with purposeful goals?  If so, you’re not alone.  

Michelle Gifford and I talked about the “Steps to Accomplish Any Goal,” and Jen Riday and I discussed  “Setting Goals From Your Strengths.” Since I believe that we should set goals from our strengths, the episode with Whole Modern Parent  “Diving into Your Strengths in Motherhood” is a great guide for this topic too!⁣⁣

If you have ADHD, know someone that does, or think that you might, check out these two incredible podcasts below.  

Monica asked some amazing questions that we got to discuss on About Progress “How to Still Live Your Best Life with a New ADHD Diagnosis” or my podcast with Sami, The Teen Life Coach simply titled, “ADHD.”⁣ will be very valuable for learning a bit more about ADHD as well. 

I’ve created a page on my website to house many of the guest podcast opportunities I’ve had in the past few years.  If you want to check out all my podcast page, click here to be directed to a podcast that will help you work on that thing you’ve been wanting to improve!

How can we figure out which tasks are important and which isn’t?

Do you have tasks on your to-do list that you never seem to get completed? ⁠I know why and you can know why too! Use these questions below to help you know why it is for you.

Answering these questions and taking action will help you simplify your list and identify which tasks to remove without ever having to do many of them!When we aren’t doing them, there’s a reason!

Discover why so you can remove the “shoulds,” plan for obstacles, remove the non-priorities, the tasks you don’t want/need to do, and activities that aren’t moving the needle forward in your life and business towards success. 

Here’s my secret when it comes to organizing and planning

The secret to accomplishing what’s on your schedule is not the number of things on your schedule, it’s how you feel about it! ⁠

Even when I was growing my coaching practice, teaching school full-time, raising my three children, and serving as the president of my church’s women’s organization, I could get it all done because when I looked at my schedule, I did not feel overwhelmed! ⁠

So what’s my secret?

I under commit (keep in mind, this looks different for everyone)! When you under commit, it allows you to have the space, flexibility, and freedom to focus on the most important things each day! ⁠

When you under commit, you have room in your schedule for emergencies, the unexpected, last-minute fun things, and to add more to your day when you WANT to!⁠

When we don’t know our priorities, we tend to over-commit. When we focus on and see the purpose behind our priorities, we plan those things that fuel us, excite us, move the needle forward, and bring us joy!

When you feel joy and excitement about your schedule, it’s hard to feel overwhelmed too!

It’s possible to have a very demanding schedule and still feel like you have space and flexibility to enjoy the life you’re creating if you LOVE the things on your schedule.

What’s a goal that you are proud of accomplishing?⁠

In 2019, while still teaching special education full-time, I made the goal to become a $100K+ coach while working in my life coaching business part-time and teaching school full-time. ⁠

When I made that goal, I didn’t know I would also be asked to serve as the president of my church’s women’s organization, adding 10+ hours of service to my already full week. ⁠

When we genuinely want to reach a goal, when were are a big fat 10, all-in, no matter how long it takes, and know the TRUE reasons we desire that goal, we will continue working towards that goal until it happens. ⁠ What goal are you currently all in on, a big fat 10, willing to take action till you reach the goal?    I bet, without even realizing it, you’re a 10 in your motherhood!  Willing to raise your kids, love them, teach them, and help them when they need it! Are you a 10 in your business?   A 10 on creating a schedule you love and will follow?   How about a 10 on finding the time to enjoy the life you’re so busy working on?   

I was a ten towards my 100K+ goal!  I kept working, trying new things, rearranging my time and schedule, said no to things that weren’t supporting my progress, showed up even when I was tired, and stayed consistent… and in 2020, I reached my goal! ⁠
 Because of Covid restrictions, The Life Coach School didn’t hold their award ceremony until last week, so this cute baby above didn’t belong to me until then! ⁠

When you are considering setting a goal, stop and ask yourself these questions below⁠ 1. Why do I want this goal?  Do I like my reasons for wanting to achieve this goal?  Are these reasons free from fears, what if’s, and “shoulds”?  2. Am I willing to stay committed?  Why? 3. What would get in the way of making it happen?   Am I willing to solve for (or work through) those obstacles? 

4. Am I committed to making it happen even if it takes longer than anticipated, even if something like covid or a big unexpected responsibility falls into the mix?⁠

If you don’t give up, it might take more time than you expected or happen in a way other than you planned, but it 100% it will happen! ⁠ If you are ready to take your business and life to the next level, be a big fat 10, and fear of time is what’s stopping you, I can solve for that!  I promise!!!

Why hire a coach?

I was recently called an amplifier by my coach and then by one of my incredible clients! ⁠

I wasn’t totally sure what that meant, so I had to look it up! ⁠

Here’s what I read.  “Amplifiers are people who bring out your best efforts. ⁠
⁠To perform at your best, amplifiers guide you through obstacles. ⁠
⁠They provide you with the tools needed to make decisions that will create opportunities.”⁠

Do you wish you had someone in your life to provide you with the tools you need to make powerful decisions, simplify action steps, hold you accountable, and help you have enough time to create greater business and life success? 

Are you using TIME to your advantage?

When I told her to get out of my drawer, she shouted in frustration, “But I need more socks!” ⁠

Knowing that I had just given her 12 new pairs for her February birthday, I knew she didn’t need more socks. ⁠

What she needed was to figure out what she was doing with her socks! ⁠

Time, unlike socks, is the greatest gift! ⁠

We don’t have to do ANYTHING for time, yet we get another, brand new, 24 hours each day! ⁠

If you think you need more time, you probably just need to know what you’re doing with your time and where/when you using it in places that doesn’t support the goals and desires you have for your business and motherhood. 

After my daughter left for school I quickly surveyed her room, closet, and under her bed and found more than 16 pairs of socks! ⁠ She didn’t need more socks!  

I do that type of sleuthing for my clients too! I I help you survey your day, time, business strategies and goals.  Maybe I don’t find your socks, but I help find you the thing you need more of… time! 😁⁠

Your strengths is worth focusing on!

Do you know what your strengths are in your business and parenting? Are you leading with them to help you get more done and do more of what you love? Growing your business with your strengths creates results faster, and it’s way more fun!!

ADHD PODCAST

Did you know that ADHD testing in women has increased by over 25% in the past two years, and many informational websites for ADHD have an increased viewer rate of 60%. ⁠ ⁠ 

The uncertainty of the past few years has really been the perfect storm to exacerbate symptoms for women who have always had ADHD (tendencies) but hadn’t yet been diagnosed.⁠ ⁠  

If you or someone close to you has ADHD, especially a more recent diagnosis, the podcast I recorded with About Progress will be something you will want to check out! ⁠ ⁠  

This podcast is equally insightful and empowering, plus filled with actionable suggestions for living your best life with a new ADHD diagnosis.

If the ADHD part doesn’t feel relevant to you, there’s still a lot covered on leaning into your strengths, time-management tips, and understanding how the way we think of ourselves and our capabilities is important!

What are the things in your business & life that you love doing?

What are you doing right now with your time that you love? What are you doing that you don’t love? ⁠

When you grow a business if you spend time on doing things you love, your business grows faster, and it’s way more fun!! When things are FUN you do them longer and more consistently!  

I recently made a list of things that I LOVE doing in my business and decided to make more time for those things. ⁠

I also created a list of things I don’t enjoy or want to do less. I am now working on plans to do less of what I don’t enjoy by either hiring out or doing without that task in my business. ⁠

I really do love to learn, but I wasn’t making the time to read, watch courses, and network with and learn from peers & mentors. ⁠

So, I created a plan for when (set a time in my calendar) I will do more learning. I know when I will read each day (hello elliptical). I know what days of the week I will set time aside to connect with peers, and get coached. I determined that while eating lunch, I will watch courses to help my business grow! ⁠

I LOVE to guest podcast, speak, present, and teach inside other membership groups, so I decided to keep that as one of my business growth goals. ⁠

Already for this month, I’ve scheduled four speaking opportunities! ⁠Fours things I get to do that I love! It also allows me to connect with peers, and when I get to do two priorities at once, I call that double-dipping. ⁠

I don’t love keeping up with my taxes, paperwork, and bookkeeping, so I hired it out. ⁠

I don’t love fixing my website issues or video editing, so I decided to “do without” while my VA took a two-month vacation. Now that she’s back, I will have her work on those tasks! ⁠

I encourage you to make these two lists and find ways to do more of what you love and less of what you don’t with your time. ⁠

Productivity Tip: Doing more of what you love is the BEST way to get more done and get more of the results you love! ⁠