Soft Place to Fall

Do you often feel like you have to hold it together for everyone else, that you don’t have time to “fall apart” or worry about yourself? ⁠ ⁠ 

As mothers, business moms, women, wives, we are like sponges. We absorb problems, emotions, tasks, responsibility, fails, and the “messes” of life. ⁠ ⁠ 

Like a sponge, we can’t go on being effective without stopping to be rung out. ⁠ ⁠ 

Do you have a space, place, or person in your life where you can land softly, and be “rung out, without judgment? ⁠ ⁠ 

Creating a place for women to have a safe place to land is just one of the reasons I help women in business have more! ⁠ ⁠ 

That more might be more support, a network, motherhood or business strategies, clarity around schedules, the know-how for their next actions, and business steps, or more confidence in their abilities to simply and strategically grow a business they enjoy. It might be a bit more money, more time for relationships with their children, or a business bestie to grow with. ⁠ ⁠ 

5 Things You Didn’t Know About Me

Did you know… 

1. I grew up in a family of 4 girls and 2 boys?  I am smack dab in the middle, although I am typed (have all the characteristics) of the oldest child. ⁠

2. On the enneagram tests I come out as an 8 and 1 equally.  I see myself in both numbers although 8’s tell me I am NOT and 8!  🤔  But @coachingwithjacqlin is very convinced that I am an 8.  Any 1’s out there?  ⁠

3. If I had to eat only one cuisine type for the rest of my life it would certainly be Mexican food.  If I had to choose one dessert it would be ice cream.  You can have almost every other type of dessert in ice cream flavors. ⁠

4. When I married my husband, the deal was, he could never take me out of Arizona, he had to mow lawns, and he couldn’t work nights. (I’m afraid of the dark)  Just a few years into our marriage I was living in Wisconsin, mowing the lawn by myself, because he was at work, pulling an all-nighter at the clinic. I didn’t get the things “I wanted” but I’ve received even better things in our marriage!  ⁠

5. My first group Mastermind mind, “IN THE MIDDLE COLLABORATIVE MASTERMIND” Launches September 2021!   

This small group mastermind is designed to help you do the work in your business and motherhood that you feel passionate about, create, hit goals, make money, NETWORK, MASTERMIND, and serve your clients without sacrificing the things you value most! And without confusion and overwhelm!  ⁠

We will network, learn, create friendships, and grow our businesses together using our own strengths, interests, strategies, and techniques that work for YOU!! ⁠

Life is more than just our business! ⁠ Let’s learn how to balance it! 

Networking with friends, smart friends, that understand what you value most… success in both business and motherhood are the best kind of friends!  ⁠

Is It Possible to Create More Time?

There are only 24 hours each day. Depending on how you use those hours, you can create more, create productively, create results, or create nothing. ⁠⁠
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If you want to create more time, ask yourself these following questions:

1. Is there a way to make the task easier or automate it?

2. Do I need to do this task as often as I am?

3. Could I hire out or do without this task in my business or motherhood?

4. Do I like my reasons for continuing to put this task on my schedule?

5. Do I like the results I’m getting from doing this task?

Did these questions make you think? If you don’t know what you are doing with your time or doing something unintentionally, good chance you’re losing hours in your day. ⁠⁠

Before saying yes to something, ask these questions first!

When was the last time you said yes?

Do you regret it?   

As women, moms, and business builders, we get asked to participate in opportunities every single day!  Before saying yes, or no, create a bit of space to think through how your answer might affect your motherhood, business, and other commitments. ⁠⁠
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1. Is there room in my schedule for it?

If not, what am I willing to give up or do differently to fit it into my schedule without sacrificing the things I value most?

2. Do I want to do it? Why or why not?

3. Am I saying yes because I am afraid to say no? 
Are you nervous of what others might think about you if you say no? 

Here’s something you can say to give you time to make the decision that’s right for you! 

“Let me check my calendar and get back with you.” 

4. How does saying yes affect my clients, motherhood,

and business?
Is saying yes a win-win? 

Using these questions you can create some space, and valid thinking options to understand how your answer might affect you in the short and long term in your business and motherhood. ⁠⁠

Learn how you Use your past experiences to build up your future dreams

I’m guilty too of living in ⁣⁠
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“𝘐 𝘸𝘪𝘴𝘩 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦….” ⁣⁠
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Unfortunately, regret doesn’t change the past. In fact, it might even make it worse with the things you’re thinking about it. ⁣⁠
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If something in your life, motherhood, or business didn’t go as planned, 𝐞𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 instead of wishing it went differently! ⁣⁠
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We have so much to learn from the past if we are willing to accept that we can’t change it, but we 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐰𝐞 𝐯𝐢𝐞𝐰 𝐢𝐭. ⁣⁠
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And we can change what we learn from it. ⁣⁠
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Think about that thing you wish had gone differently. ⁣⁠
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Learn from it by asking yourself questions such as ⁣⁠
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𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺? ⁣⁠
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𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘶𝘱 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘤𝘶𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘺/𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴/𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯? ⁣⁠
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𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦? ⁣⁠
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𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘢𝘮 𝘐 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘥 𝘰𝘧? ⁣⁠
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𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘐 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘥𝘰 𝘢𝘨𝘢𝘪𝘯. ⁣⁠
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Instead of wishing it were different, 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐞. ⁣⁠
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5 Ways to Listen and Respond for Deeper Connection

Desire deeper connections? Check out this list of 5 ways you can increase your listening to foster deeper connections. ⁠⁠

1. Repeat their words back

Child: Mom, I am so sad, something bad happened today. 

Mom: You’re sad because something bad happened today. Do you want to talk about it? 

2. Paraphrase what you heard
Paraphrase with feeling words 

Even if you say a feeling word they may not identify with, they can correct you. Saying what you “think” they feel and them correcting you, helps them know/identify what they are actually feeling.

This builds connection.

3. Reflect what you heard—inflate the feelings words
The more feelings you add to the narrative you reflect back, the more they feel heard, validated, and understood. It produces an understanding that builds safety into the conversation. 

Actual script from my conversation with my daughter
“It sounds like you enjoyed your time at tennis and that you felt proud of your serve and confident playing with the older girls.”

4. Understand and Lead 
Help them come up with their own solution through open-ended questions (not telling them what to do)

Sounds like you are (feeling word) because (point out the problem, what they are unable to do, want to have done differently, etc), and if feels _____ because (point out the obstacle they mentioned). 

Ask leading open-ended questions such as…


If you had more time, what would you consider doing?

If you were able to talk to your teacher, what would you say?

If you could change this situation, what would you feel comfortable doing?

If you knew you would get solved eventually, what do you think you could do/try?

5. Ask permission 
Understand the role they want you to fill

Ask if they want your:

• help
• advice
• or if they just want you to listen.

Before giving any advice, ask if they would be open to a solution or if they want to hear what you think might help.

The beauty, this isn’t just for your business or motherhood—it works in all areas of your life. ⁠⁠


 

Let’s Discover the joys and blessings life has to offer

She told me, ⁠⁠
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“I wouldn’t say that out loud” ⁠⁠
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when I declared, ⁠⁠
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“I have a good life!” ⁠⁠
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I used to be scared to admit that I loved my life, for fear something terrible would happen if I KNEW how blessed I was.⁠⁠
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Based on my friend’s reaction, I guess I’m not the only one!? ⁠⁠
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Not fully living the great life I had because I was waiting fearfully for something to ruin the good parts was the “bad” thing. ⁠⁠
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Over the last few years, I have discovered a few incredible insights. ⁠⁠
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A full heart makes room for more growth and opportunity.⁠⁠
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A grateful heart opens doors, it doesn’t make the good parts turn bad. ⁠⁠
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There’s nothing wrong with loving your life a still desire more.⁠⁠
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It doesn’t make you “bad” or ungrateful to want more, even when you love what you already have. ⁠⁠
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If you’re afraid to count your blessings out loud and genuinely appreciate your life, the worst thing to happen is already happening!⁠⁠
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You’re robbing yourself of the joy you could be having in each moment!

Define Your Role

Meet our aunt Jeanne. ⁠⁣⁠
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When the girls were younger, she would watch my children when my husband and I went on overnight trips.⁠⁣⁠
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When I was working as a teacher, she would pick up my sick children from school, check on them during the day and bring them soup. ⁠⁣⁠
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She planned the most incredible bridal shower and attended Camryn’s small wedding ceremony. ⁠⁣⁠
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She watches our cat and my daughter’s guinea pig when we go on vacation.⁠⁣⁠
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She cuts down our overgrown bushes and takes me for soda and pedicures. ⁠⁣⁠
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She brings us back souvenirs from her world travels. ⁠⁣⁠
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She invites us over for dinner, delivers presents during the holidays, and even tells the girls to behave and use their manners. ⁠⁣⁠
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Typical, right? That’s just what aunts do! ⁠⁣⁠
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The thing is, 𝘴𝘩𝘦’𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 “𝘵𝘦𝘤𝘩𝘯𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺” 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘶𝘯𝘵. ⁠⁣⁠
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We met her about 7 years ago and 𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐝 she was going to be the girl’s aunt. ⁠⁣⁠
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She tells everyone she’s their aunt and we of course do the same, 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬. ⁠⁣⁠
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At this point, it’s 100% the truth! ⁠⁣⁠
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If there’s something you want to be, 𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐨𝐥𝐞, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐢𝐭 so! ⁠⁣⁠
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The good, joy, and love it will bring to you and others you impact in your role can’t be measured! ⁠⁣⁠

Finding Your Strength

It was super embarrassing, felt very unkind, and bothered me when my mom told her friends these two things! ⁠

“Annie would make friends with a lamppost, and Ceri would question it.”⁠

“Ceri won’t ever just get in the car. She has to ask, where are we going, why are we going, when will we be back?”⁠

EVEN THOUGH I didn’t get how the adults around me didn’t realize my questions were me trying to understand, I still thought I was doing something wrong. I thought this must make me obnoxious, annoying, challenging, and a HUGE problem child! ⁠

However, my desire to question things, learn and understand the purpose behind actions and intentions has gotten me where I am today. ⁠

Questions help uncover my desires, knowledge, actual wants, refine my processes, beliefs, and understanding.

My questions help me make quick, decisive decisions full of clarity and excitement. ⁠

I still ask a lot of GOOD questions… But now it’s my career, and my clients benefit from my quick, always thinking, constantly planning, very curious mind. ⁠

My questions can help you get clarity, save time and money while developing the action plan to get the results you desire in your home and business! ⁠

Do you have a “perceived” weakness that has become a significant strength? ⁠


I’ve Got Some Secrets For You

Growing your business should be FUN and EASY!  Check out these simple ways I grew my business to 100k!

1. Keep It Simple

Decide what you like doing in your business and what’s getting you the results you desire and do more of those things.

You don’t need to have all the offers. Decide what people want that you’re good at, and make that offer (solution to their problem) your simple business plan


2. Keep It Fun

If you’re not having FUN in your business you’ll get burnt out before you reach your goal!

Business building, just like anything else is 50/50. Create a business model that you will enjoy long-term. If you don’t like doing it, ask yourself how else you could reach the result in a way you would enjoy?

Let your heart lead.


3. Keep It Intentional

Know what results you desire and what results you are getting from your actions.

Notice what you’re doing that is not getting you results and STOP wasting time doing those things. Be aware of your limiting beliefs.

Think thoughts of possibility. Believe in your abilities. Grow your confidence. Use motivating ‘I am’ statements.


4. Keep Your Goals In Mind

Set goals and evaluate your progress towards your goals at least monthly. Know why you’re doing what you’re doing. Define 3-4 simple action steps that you will do daily/weekly to help you reach your goal. Calendar/schedule those action steps.

Network, find a mentor, or hire a coach. Have someone in your corner for when you get stuck. Believe that you will be successful!