Lessons Learned from a Beauty Pageant

Last week, my daughter participated in a 6-day scholarship pageant for our state, representing our region in a Distinguished Young Women Scholarship Pageant.

I dropped her off on Monday, and on Tuesday morning, the director called me to tell me that she was worried about my daughter. 

My daughter was feeling faint, had horrible stomach pain, and her vision was blacking out briefly when she stood up.  We were worried about her having another ruptured cyst.  

She was living with a host family for the week. We stayed in close contact, but due to the rules of the program, we were not able to see her and only allowed to talk to her for 10 minutes each night.

It wasn’t until Friday night that I was able to see and talk to her at length. 

It was after she nailed her performance that she told me how horrible she truly felt.

She wanted to give up.

She wanted to go home.

I told her those all were options for her.

She said she wanted to stay as she’s rolled into a ball on the pavement, fighting tremendous pain.

I asked her why she wanted to stay, even when it would be reasonable to give up at this point and not finish the final night of judging?

She then said,

“I don’t care if I win anything at this point. I don’t think I will win anything. However, I committed to be here this week and to compete. Seeing this through and staying committed will make me a winner in my book.”

She didn’t win the grand prize, but she did win!

She won because she learned;

She can do hard things.

She can stay committed even when it seems hopeless and when she doesn’t feel like it.

That growth and learning happen during difficult times.

But my favorite reason she won, she learned she doesn’t need a judge to tell her that she’s a winner!

She gets to decide whether she’s winning or not.

We get to decide if we are winning in our business, our goals, and our roles as a mom/wife.

We don’t need a judge to tell or validate our efforts. 

There’s no “expert” out there that can tell you if you’re doing it all right.  You get to decide that.

Are you staying committed to your business, your mommyhood, yourself, even when it’s painful, overwhelming, and feels fruitless?

Are you letting the “experts” (or even yourself) judge you, making you think you’re doing it all wrong?

If you want to stay more committed in your life roles, become more effective in your mommyhood and business, I get it.  I wanted that too. 

Click on the link here to schedule a 50-minute complimentary session with me so you can discover why you are not staying committed, why you are feeling overwhelmed and how you can solve it.

Be a winner in your own book!

I can show you how. 

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Planning is Hassle Insurance

Yesterday, my client, a mom of 5 kids, an incredible wife, and someone that is working to grow a business said, “planning is such a hassle.” 

Heading to the school play, after only getting ½ your workout in, being 15 minutes late, with wet hair, no makeup, and mismatched shoes because you didn’t plan to work out earlier that morning, because you forgot about the play, that’s a hassle!

Not knowing what to fix for dinner, so you run home look in the fridge, then in the outside freezer, only to discover no viable ingredients, that’s a hassle!   So you run back out to get some take out, spend 25 minutes in the drive-through, only to come home and realize you got the wrong order, so you head back out to get what you really ordered, that’s a hassle! 

Scrambling to find someone to watch your kids, last minute, because you HAVE to go into work because your employee didn’t show, you know, the same one that asked for the day off, but you forgot to get someone to cover her shift, that’s a hassle.

Taking less than one hour each week to plan your schedule, your meals, your work-time, your down-time, your kid’s carpool schedules, I think that is NOT a hassle!

Planning is like buying hassle insurance! 

It’s your decision. Call it what you want, but I think planning is brilliant! 

What Parking Spot Are You Aiming For?

The Parking Space and the Teenage Driver 

I recently had the opportunity to help my 15-year-old learn how to park a car.

As she unsuccessfully tried over and over 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐎𝐕𝐄𝐑 to park between two lines, I finally decided to ask her,

“What parking spot are you aiming for?”

Her reply was, “Whichever one I end up in!”

If we are not aiming for a specific “parking spot” in life, how will we know the actions to take (when to swing the car out, when to turn the wheel, when to straighten the wheel, what speed to go) to allow us to end up in the “space” we want?

Are you willing to be in whichever spot you happen to land in, or do you want to take control and be in the spot you WANT to be? 
Goals give us focus, something to aim for, a destination.

Decide ahead of time which parking spot you’re aiming for so that you can create a game plan to navigate into that spot successfully.