Learn how you Use your past experiences to build up your future dreams

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“๐˜ ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ฉ ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ….” โฃโ 
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Unfortunately, regret doesn’t change the past. In fact, it might even make it worse with the things you’re thinking about it. โฃโ 
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If something in your life, motherhood, or business didn’t go as planned, ๐ž๐ฏ๐š๐ฅ๐ฎ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ฎ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง instead of wishing it went differently! โฃโ 
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We have so much to learn from the past if we are willing to accept that we can’t change it, but we ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฏ๐ข๐ž๐ฐ ๐ข๐ญ. โฃโ 
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And we can change what we learn from it. โฃโ 
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Think about that thing you wish had gone differently. โฃโ 
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Learn from it by asking yourself questions such as โฃโ 
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๐˜ž๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ญ๐˜บ? โฃโ 
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๐˜๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฉ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ค๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ/๐˜ฌ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด/๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ? โฃโ 
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๐˜ž๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ? โฃโ 
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๐˜ž๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฎ ๐˜ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง? โฃโ 
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๐˜ž๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜ข๐˜ช๐˜ฏ. โฃโ 
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Instead of wishing it were different, ๐ฅ๐ž๐š๐ซ๐ง๐ข๐ง๐  ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฉ๐š๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ก๐ž๐ฅ๐ฉ ๐œ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ž๐ฌ๐ข๐ซ๐ž. โฃโ 
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5 Ways to Listen and Respond for Deeper Connection

Desire deeper connections? Check out this list of 5 ways you can increase your listening to foster deeper connections. โ โ 

1. Repeat their words back

Child: Mom, I am so sad, something bad happened today. 

Mom: You’re sad because something bad happened today. Do you want to talk about it?ย 

2. Paraphrase what you heard
Paraphrase with feeling wordsย 

Even if you say a feeling word they may not identify with, they can correct you. Saying what you “think” they feel and them correcting you, helps them know/identify what they are actually feeling.

This builds connection.

3. Reflect what you heardโ€”inflate the feelings words
The more feelings you add to the narrative you reflect back, the more they feel heard, validated, and understood. It produces an understanding that builds safety into the conversation.ย 

Actual script from my conversation with my daughter
“It sounds like you enjoyed your time at tennis and that you felt proud of your serve and confident playing with the older girls.”

4. Understand and Leadย 
Help them come up with their own solution through open-ended questions (not telling them what to do)

Sounds like you are (feeling word) because (point out the problem, what they are unable to do, want to have done differently, etc), and if feels _____ because (point out the obstacle they mentioned).ย 

Ask leading open-ended questions such asโ€ฆ


If you had more time, what would you consider doing?

If you were able to talk to your teacher, what would you say?

If you could change this situation, what would you feel comfortable doing?

If you knew you would get solved eventually, what do you think you could do/try?

5. Ask permission 
Understand the role they want you to fill

Ask if they want your:

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โ€ข or if they just want you to listen.

Before giving any advice, ask if they would be open to a solution or if they want to hear what you think might help.

The beauty, this isn’t just for your business or motherhoodโ€”it works in all areas of your life. โ โ 


 

Let’s Discover the joys and blessings life has to offer

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“I wouldn’t say that out loud” โ โ 
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when I declared, โ โ 
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“I have a good life!” โ โ 
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I used to be scared to admit that I loved my life, for fear something terrible would happen if I KNEW how blessed I was.โ โ 
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Based on my friend’s reaction, I guess I’m not the only one!? โ โ 
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Not fully living the great life I had because I was waiting fearfully for something to ruin the good parts was the “bad” thing. โ โ 
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Over the last few years, I have discovered a few incredible insights. โ โ 
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A full heart makes room for more growth and opportunity.โ โ 
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A grateful heart opens doors, it doesn’t make the good parts turn bad. โ โ 
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There’s nothing wrong with loving your life a still desire more.โ โ 
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It doesn’t make you “bad” or ungrateful to want more, even when you love what you already have. โ โ 
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If you’re afraid to count your blessings out loud and genuinely appreciate your life, the worst thing to happen is already happening!โ โ 
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You’re robbing yourself of the joy you could be having in each moment!

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Define Your Role

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When the girls were younger, she would watch my children when my husband and I went on overnight trips.โ โฃโ 
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When I was working as a teacher, she would pick up my sick children from school, check on them during the day and bring them soup. โ โฃโ 
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She planned the most incredible bridal shower and attended Camryn’s small wedding ceremony. โ โฃโ 
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She watches our cat and my daughter’s guinea pig when we go on vacation.โ โฃโ 
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She cuts down our overgrown bushes and takes me for soda and pedicures. โ โฃโ 
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She brings us back souvenirs from her world travels. โ โฃโ 
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She invites us over for dinner, delivers presents during the holidays, and even tells the girls to behave and use their manners. โ โฃโ 
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Typical, right? That’s just what aunts do! โ โฃโ 
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The thing is, ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ’๐˜ด ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต “๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜บ” ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ข๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต. โ โฃโ 
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We met her about 7 years ago and ๐ฌ๐ก๐ž ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐๐ž๐œ๐ข๐๐ž๐ she was going to be the girl’s aunt. โ โฃโ 
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She tells everyone she’s their aunt and we of course do the same, ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ก๐จ๐ง๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ ๐ซ๐š๐ญ๐ž๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ. โ โฃโ 
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At this point, it’s 100% the truth! โ โฃโ 
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If there’s something you want to be, ๐๐ž๐Ÿ๐ข๐ง๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ซ๐จ๐ฅ๐ž, ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ญ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฆ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐ข๐ญ so! โ โฃโ 
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The good, joy, and love it will bring to you and others you impact in your role can’t be measured! โ โฃโ