I get asked this all the time.


“How do I know when it’s time to start hiring out in my business?”⁠

Since I work with moms, the first things that often get hired out are ⁠

house cleaning⁠

grocery delivery service ⁠

meal prep/take out⁠

laundry services⁠

babysitting ⁠

When it’s time to make these choices in your business or motherhood, consider asking yourself the questions (SWIPE)⁠

These questions will help you gain clarity for when to considering hiring out other services as well, such as ⁠

an assistant⁠

a VA⁠

an add or SM manager⁠

website or graphic designer⁠

a business coach/course⁠

a copywriter/editor⁠

That’s a lie

Do you know what you want?  

Many of my clients say, 

“𝘐’𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘐 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵.” ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

I tell them, “𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘢 𝘭𝘪𝘦.” ⁣⁠

We know what we want! We are just afraid of what it *might* take to get it. ⁣⁠

We are afraid that we can’t accomplish it successfully. ⁣⁠ ⁣

We are sacred that we might fail.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

We worry about what other people will think of us.  

We realize a desire; then, we tell ourselves stories such as ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠

it’s selfish to want more of that⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

it’s not necessary to have that (𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘮𝘺 𝘭𝘪𝘦)⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

it will cost too much money⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

it will take away from my motherhood⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

I won’t be able to juggle all of it⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

I am not smart enough to _______⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

Instead of telling yourself all the reasons why you can’t do something in your business, consider telling yourself all the reasons why it could be possible!!! ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

If you want better results, more time, less overwhelm, or more money, 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞!⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

Figure out what you want and why, and then 𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐢𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞! ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠

There’s not a rush to complete your dreams. ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

There’s not a rush to grow your business. ⁠ ⁣⁠ 

Take all the time you need. ⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ 

Please, just stop telling yourself the lies that are holding you back!

The Worst Thing That’s Ever Happened

Have you ever known a school teacher to quit mid-school year?

Six years ago, I was that teacher!

We are natural storytellers, and we often use that gift to our detriment.

I told myself the worst of stories about quitting.

I’m done for in the state of Utah.

I’m never going to get another job.

No one will ever trust me again.

To make it worse, I was supposed to begin working at the neighboring school district the next year, and by quitting, I just knew I ruined that opportunity.

The day after I quit, I got a call from the same district asking me to interview for a work from home teaching position.

Quitting mid-year freed me up for one of the most significant opportunities of my career!

During that job work from home position, I developed many of the skills and confidence I use now in my coaching.

Because that position had flexibility, it provided me the time to certify in life and business coaching.

Because of quitting, I am here, helping other women take chances, make changes, build confidence, and create a business and motherhood they love.

“The more we practice looking in the rearview mirror and finding gratitude for the hard times we’ve experienced, the more we start to change our programming.”

When we learn from the hard times, the intensity of our fears in the moment of difficulty will begin to diminish!

That “worst thing that’s ever happened to you,” what are you enjoying now because you went through that experience?

The next time you begin to tell yourself the stories of “this is the worst thing ever,” zoom out a minute and consider that you could be wrong.

Who’s That Girl?

I’ve recently become a fan of the show “New Girl.”

One of the episodes I watched recently was about two people deciding to “go all-in” on their relationship. 

Their “all-in” included leaving their friends and moving to Mexico. They did a few crazy things that they wouldn’t normally do for the sake of “going all-in.”  At one point, they were captured by the Mexican police for their choices.  To show their commitment, while in “jail” they put their American passport in the shredder. 

What crazy things have you found yourself doing for the sake of “going all in? 

Going all-in on your business and motherhood doesn’t mean that you are doing it all! ⁠ 

Going all-in is when you intentionally decide from your priorities what you’re going to do to get the results you desire. ⁠ ⁠ 

Going all-in is staying committed to those actions and results! ⁠ ⁠ If the actions of your day aren’t getting you closer to the results you desire in your business and motherhood, I encourage you to take an inventory! ⁠ ⁠ 

Going all-inis evaluating your actions. ⁠ ⁠ Ask yourself, what can you do less of and still reach your results?⁠ ⁠ What actions can you do without, hire out, assign to a child, reconsider, or consider a huge bonus if you do them! ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ 

This past year I decided to hire out three services that have saved me hours and hours of time and mental energy.

⁠I got a grocery delivery service, and as of today, it says it has saved me 29 hours in the past 6-months. ⁠ ⁠ I’m pretty sure that’s a very, very low estimate of time saved!

I also purchased a social media scheduling service. This posting service has saved me at least 20-30 minutes each day and the price was under $100. ⁠ ⁠ Besides coaching, it’s seriously the best business purchase I made in 2020. 

You know the third one right?

I hired a coach to help me stop feeling like the “new girl” and strategize what I need to continue, and start doing to grow my business the way I want!

If you want to go all-in on your business and motherhood, but still feeling so new (even though it’s a while), then I invite you to click here to schedule a free session with me.  

Coaching will help you go all-in with purpose and a plan.  We will discover the results you desire and make a plan for you to make that happen.  

Ready to go all-in?  

Ready to start approaching your motherhood and business with direction, a plan, and intention?  I

I’m currently adding clients to my waitlist, so if you think you want on my list, schedule your free consolation to find out for sure just how done you are at feeling like the “new girl!”  

6 Lessons Learned From Dressing Up

Over the years I’ve learned many incredible lessons from dressing up.  

Halloween, the season of dressing up, made it seem appropriate to share these lessons with you now!  

My children are older and past the age of dressing up and trick-or-treating.  I don’t know yet if I miss it!  I kinda think that I don’t! 

However, they aren’t past the age of throwing a party.

I will be hosting the High School Crowd on Friday and the Jr high goblins on Saturday.  Lots of pizza, treats, games, messes, laughing, and scary movies will be happening!  

Anyone want to come over and help!?  
 

Let’s dive into lesson #1 
Don’t let excuses hold you back!  




We had just moved from West Virginia to Utah.  

This picture was taken on my girls’ second day of school.  The first day was the Friday before, and they went to school with wet hair because our power went out.

It’s their second day of school in this new state, and it’s spirit week. 

They didn’t let the excuse of being new hold them back. 

They didn’t let the excuse of “people won’t know what we really look like” hold them back. 

They didn’t let the excuse of “what if no one else dresses up” stop them.

They didn’t let the excuse that we didn’t have lots of time to prepare hold them back or the fact that the Costume box was buried underneath a slew of other boxes in the far corner of the storage unit convince them not to participate. 

There will always be an “excuse” that we can hold on to keep us from doing what we desire to do. 

What excuses are you holding on to that’s keeping you from going after your desires?
 

On to lesson #2 
It’s never too late to get started!  


Record snowfall and very low temps the day before Halloween canceled trick-or-treating this specific year.  It wasn’t until November 4th that our state finally gave the OK to allow children to head out and collect all the candy. 

We could have decided to bail because Halloween wasn’t held on the day that we expected…
BUT we would have missed so much!  

How many times have you said, it’s too late to __________?
Start a business
Head back to school
Parent in a different way
Try something new in your business
Switch over your email provider
Change your niche
Start hugging your teen more
Create a business schedule that works

It’s never too late to get started!  
 

If it’s a desire in your motherhood, in your business, in your personal goals, don’t let the expectations that it “should” happen by a specific time or that it’s “too late”,  keep you from going after what you really want.  
 

On to lesson #3 
Be your own judge, there isn’t a right or wrong way!



Who really knows what qualifies as an “ugly sweater” anyway?

We appoint a judge for each ugly sweater party, and we allow them to crown the winner. 

There are no other rules than their opinion.  

Guess what?

That’s the same principle that I encourage you to apply to your motherhood and business as well!

You get to be the judge of what’s working and what’s “ugly” for YOU in both YOUR motherhood and business. 

Appoint yourself to be your own judge!

You’re the only one qualified to decide if what you’re doing is working and getting you the desired results you want in all your life roles. 

No one has the same results for their business and motherhood, so it WILL LOOK DIFFERENTLY for everyone!  

If you’re the judge, on a scale of 1-10, how “ugly” is your business and or motherhood currently? 


Time for #4 
Because you “want to” is a good enough reason!

  


When my kids were little, they didn’t need a reason to dress up or to create something incredible.  They got out the consume box whenever they wanted. They didn’t wait for a “reason” such as Halloween or Spirit Week. 

On this snow day, they created an adorable play of an old couple that was reminiscing about their wedding day. 

The grandpa asked the grandma, 
“why did you marry me?’
Reply, “Because I wanted to”

Because you want to is a good enough reason to go after something you desire. 

Finding the why, it’s all the rage and the thing business coaches hone in on a lot!  
I agree, the WHY is essential!

However, I also think because you want to is a significant enough reason as long as it motivates you to get the result you desire! 


It’s time for #5
Don’t be afraid to speak up!



If it’s a desire, a passion, don’t be afraid to speak up and share it with others.  

That desire was put inside of you for your reason. 


Bonus lesson… keep it simple. 

This costume, Tape Face, was a massive hit with my students. The best part, it took about 10 minutes to create, and I didn’t have to buy a single thing.

We often complicate our motherhood and business, making it more challenging than it has to be. 

The next time you’re trying to solve a problem, ask yourself,
“how can I make it simple?”


The last one for this year #6
Be authentic!




 

When most 9-year-olds were dreaming of dressing up as princesses, the latest fashion doll, or a bride, my cute 9-year-old wanted to be a police officer. 

She didn’t care what others were doing or what was “typical” of girls her age.  

She did what made her happy!

My Queen of Hearts was cast in the local play during this time.  

She was cast so perfectly!!  

As she as on that stage, being the VERY BEST sarcastic and demanding Queen of Hearts I had ever seen, I whispered to my husband,
“they nailed this casting role; it’s like she’s not even acting!” 

She was confident enough in herself to give this role all her sass!! And she had a lot!  

Be you, even if it’s not “typical” business practice or what what “all the other moms” are doing. 

Be confident in your role as the CEO of both your motherhood and business.  

We are much happier when we are true to us and our desires, not everyone else’s.  
 

I made it all about me.

Have you ever been leaving from a friend’s birthday party, and your 4-year-old rushes up to the hostess to ask if they can bring home an extra piece of cake or goodie bag to give to her sister?

I have, more than once, and I was always so embarrassed! 

I have a 16-year old daughter who is very outgoing, not afraid of authority, will tell a teacher when they have made a mistake, and always asks for and gets what she wants. She’s always been this way. She was that 4-year-old at the party. 

No matter where we went, she came home with something that she wanted that she has asked for. She wasn’t scared to ask an adult where the bathroom was in a store. She wasn’t nervous to ask the waiter for more chips, their cool pen, or a free dessert. 

I was so embarrassed that she asked everyone for what she wanted. 

I thought it wasn’t polite.

I thought people were judging me for allowing her to ask. 

I was hot with shame, thinking, “good moms don’t let their kids do this.”

As a brand new 14-year-old, this daughter wanted a job. I told her that the stores didn’t hire till 16, but she didn’t let that stop her. No matter where we went, she asked if they would hire her. She filled out every online application she could find. She spent hours calling stores to find out the age you had to be to work there. She even tried to talk them into making an exception. And she got a job at 14 then another one at 15!

I’m still somewhat embarrassed but for an entirely different reason. 

That I didn’t recognize what am fantastic quality this is to have!

I’m in awe that I have a confident daughter that isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants. She didn’t give up!  

She made the impossible possible!  

I’m often reminded, we can learn so much from our children if we put our fears of what other people think of us, and our ego aside. 

Is there something that you want, but you’re too afraid to ask?  

Are you working on being a great mom while growing a business? 

How does your children’s daycare or school situation change your schedule next year? 

While building my coaching practice, I was an online school teacher for the home school population of my district? I earned a Masters Degree in Education while pregnant with this amazing, said daughter, and taught special education for many years. I understand ADHD and many other learning and behavior challenges! 

My passion is to help mompreneurs build a thriving business that makes great money while being amazing mothers. I teach women how to implement simple steps to achieve their desires without sacrificing what matters most.

Are you asking for the help you desire to achieve your dreams?  

I’m offering a small group coaching package for moms, growing a business, and possibly while their children are home learning next year. 

Here are the details of this group coaching experience.

– 12-week program

– 10 small group sessions

– 2 private 1-on-1 sessions

– Group Marco Polo or Text to connect, ask questions, gain support, brainstorm, and share ideas with the group. 

– I will teach you the simple tools and strategies that I use with all my clients to help them create the time and schedules that support their business and motherhood goals. No boot camp style, no “just push through”, wake up before the sun kind of tools!  

– I will work with you to create the online learning schedule and environment that will set you and your children up for the most success, for learning, and your relationship while we create personalized business strategies to help you grow your business.

– Group Sessions will start the 2nd week of August. All sessions will be recorded and sent out to group members unable to attend. 

– Group sessions will be Fridays, between the hours of 10-1 MST. I’ll let the majority decided the time before we have our first session. 

– Groups are more fun with friends! $100 Discount (for both of you) if you refer a friend, and she signs up. 

If you’re ready to…

  • grow your business in a way that works for you
  • facilitate your children’s education with fewer struggles and more purpose
  • show up as the mom you want to be while making money in your business, then click here to send me an email that says, I want to learn more.  

We will discover simple ways to maximize time and schedules with intention so that you can be an amazing mom that makes great money. 

This will be a small group experience, so space is very limited.  

If you’re interested, curious, or already all in, click here to send me an email. 

I am looking forward to seeing you in my inbox.

We Got Robbed While Sleeping

I am terrified of the dark.  

As a young child to HS senior, checking my closet, under my bed, and sleeping with a hall light was part of my nightly routine. I got so much braver about the dark during my college days; it was awesome!    

A little over a year into being married, we were robbed in the middle of the night. I woke up to loud yelling, a slick black-gloved hand holding a gun, and the other hand shining a flashlight. It was exactly like the movies, but worse.  


I was paralyzed!


We had no phone in the room, and my subtle nudges and delicate whispering didn’t wake my husband.  After that event, the fear of the dark came back even more potent. I was afraid of going to sleep in my own home. 


Fast forward a few years to when my husband was in PA school. I had an 18-month-old and a 3-week old, both getting up in the middle of the night to eat.  My husband’s OBGYN rotation was reassigned last minute. He would be 5 hours away in a small town for eight weeks. Meaning, I would be home alone, at night, in the dark, with two babies waking me up, forcing me to walk through a dark empty house, make bottles and say up feeding them while my mind tells me a horrendous story about every sound I hear.  


I was honestly afraid that before my husband came back after the eight weeks, I would be admitted into a psych ward. I mean, one can only go so many nights without sleep while caring for two babies that need your attention before you snap. I was sacred and full of panic and tears, and I had five days to figure it out.


I didn’t think getting over my fear overnight (no pun intended) was possible, so I had to ask myself, what else could I do.  
 

I used my fear to take massive action. 


I went to the doctor on Monday morning, told her the situation, and was prescribed some heavy sleeping pill. Um yeah, that’s not going to work. I have two babies that are waking up a few times a night and no other adult in the house. A sleeping pill wasn’t the answer. 


On Tuesday, I starting calling every single OBGYN in the local area.  


You guys… I made cold calls!! I told them I was representing St. Francis University (my husband’s school) and that I was looking to place a male PA student for an 8-week clinical rotation. I talked to so many clinics and left so many messages.  


On Thursday morning, I made the golden call. I found a Medical provider willing to take my husband on as a PA student. This good news for me was good news for the university because placing male students with male providers was challenging, and I secured a spot. 


When my husband’s school found out what I did, they were in disbelief, a bit shocked, and very excited. They said three things to my husband. 

  1. Your wife is brave (little did they know why I was calling)
  2. Please don’t mess this rotation up; we need a male medical provider in OBGYN
  3. Don’t tell any other students what your wife did and tell her not to do it again. 


My fear was so real, but I didn’t let it stop me from taking control of my life. This fear drove me to make cold calls as a university repressive to create a different outcome.

Fear can either hold you back or propel you forward.

I can’t say that I’ve faced all my fears this way, head-on, and completely brave, but I have learned from this experience. 


We have all the power to create the life we want to live.  


Yes, I could have decided to get over the fear, stop being scared of the dark, “man up,” so to speak.  But you know what? I DID “man up,” it just looked different than maybe the “typical” path one would assume or suggest I take to solve this problem.  


How we approach our life, how we tackle our fears will look differently for everyone. There’s no right or wrong way to face fear.  


The best way to handle fear is to ask yourself questions. 


> How can I not let this fear keep me stuck?  

> How can I creatively move forward even with this fear around?

> Is there another way to create the life I desire even if I am sacred of ________ (fill in the blank) 

> Is it possible to move past it, work through it, and declare it something that’s not going to stop me?

> How can I get rid of this fear while working towards my goal? 

I know you’re dying to know, so here’s the rest of the story. 
– I am not currently scared of the dark, like not at all. I know it’s very situational for me, If a neighbor was robbed or a child was heaven forbid taken from our neighborhood, the fear would again become very real.

– Yes, we were robbed in the middle of the night. A neighbor had reported a car with suspicious activity at about 1 am. When the same neighbor got up about 5 am to head to work, they saw the same suspicious vehicle and called the Police. While they were talking with the Police, the group of men robbing my home left with our car, full of the things they had taken from our house. Our neighbor attempted to run in the pouring rain to catch the men!  

– The gun, the flashlight, that was the Police. The robbers had left all the doors in our home completely wide open. I initially woke to yelling, but didn’t know what it was at the time. It was the Mesa Police yelling and knocking at the front door to announce themselves. They didn’t think it was possible to sleep through something like that, so they assumed no one was home. The gun and flashlight appeared in my room three different times. The first time they were checking the home and saw us. The second time was them making sure that they really saw people and that we weren’t dead. The third time they yell, “this is the Mesa Police. You’ve been robbed. Get up and meet me us in the kitchen.” 

– My husband knocked the socks off of that provider, and several other students were able to have the option for a local rotation. Also, my husband was the valedictorian of his PA school. Not relevant, but I’m still pretty dang proud of him, even if he had left the garage door open that night, giving the robbers full, easy access to our home.  

Write down your fears.

Write down what’s holding you back and then ask yourself the questions above.  
 

Fear can be part of our life, but it doesn’t have to stop us from creating the life we want.

Experience Is The Best Knowledge

What are your summer plans? 

This summer, my family and I were going to go on a cruise for the first time. 

I could have just booked the first one that popped up after my google search and hoped for the best.  

Instead, I asked people that had experience with cruises all about them. 

I asked what they thought made a great cruise, what they liked, and what made it less than great.  

I ask how they planned it, what agency they used, and who was easy to work with. 

I found out their opinions for stateside and foreign cruises. 

I inquired about boarding differences between the west coast and the south.  

I talked with people that have experiences with cruises, what worked, what didn’t, what they would do differently, their best advice, what to do and not todo, and the “how-to” for the most successful overall cruise experience.

This is no different from hiring a coach.  

Hiring a coach that has experience where you currently are and has figured out how to get where you want to be already makes for the best knowledge.

A coach will get you there faster, with less stress, less failure, more clarity, and success!

A coach will guide and help you to have the best experience and create the life you want.  

If you’re trying to build a business while parenting children, I’ve been there.  

I built my successful life coaching business while parenting three young daughters and teaching school full-time. 

I know the challenges and struggles you are facing.  

I know the time constraints and the demands of motherhood you are feeling. 

I know the shame, guilt, exhaustion, disorganization, and overwhelm that keeps you up at night.  

If you want to go from feeling confused, like you don’t have enough time, and out of control, to thriving in both your motherhood and business, making money in a way that you love,  I know the best way to get you there. 

Click here to schedule a free exploration session.

I will show you how to create a balanced life you love without sacrificing your health, life goals, motherhood, sleep, or relationships. 

Will It Happen The Way We Expect?

My friend mentioned last night that she’s free all next week and maybe we should invite 2020 to show up the way we expected. 

I told her that it won’t be like anything we expected, however, in time, I think it will be even better than we could have dreamed. 

Speaking of expectations, there was a long stretch in my life when I wanted to get my PDH in Psychology. I never achieved it,and here’s what I was telling myself when I didn’t pursue it. 


– I would score too low and the GRE… I’m not smart enough.


– I would never get accepted into a program anyway.


– My husband is too busy climbing the cooperate ladder, he doesn’t have time to support me more education. 


– My kids are too little, they need me.

– As they became older, I told myself, I needed to save that money for their college education, it would be irresponsible to spend it on another degree. 


– I also told myself, good moms stay home and raise their kids they aren’t off going to college and getting corporate jobs


Do any of these excuses come up for you when you’re talking yourself out of doing more?  


Recently, I was a speaker at the
Purpose Project Online Summit. 


I talked about how to make the time and any season WORK for pursuing your dreams. 


I take you through a self-discovery that will leave you with clarity about how you are currently using your time, how you are thinking about your time, and how you could be using it even more effectively to help you take small steps towards fulfilling your desire in the season of life that you’re currently in. 


If you have a dream, but not currently fully pursuing it, this video had inspiration and ideas just for you. 

If you have a dream, you are pursuing it, but you feel overwhelmed, confused, and unhappy a lot of the times, this video has action steps and clarity for you too.   

There’s a lot to discover about yourself in this video.  It’s only 20 minutes, so I really encourage you to create the time to give it a listen. 

Watch the video here.


I’ve created a little worksheet to walk you through the video and provide you with more clarity. 


You can access and PDF worksheet here.

If you found this video helpful and want to take your self-discovery to another level, please feel free to schedule a free exploratory session with me.  We simply have a conversation about what’s going well in your life and business, what’s not working, and how we can solve for the things you want better.  It’s like talking to a really good friend that has valuable insight and knows about business building while being a mom.  

Schedule your free session with me here

Can You Hear Your Voice

Hello! 

What is it that you really want? 

It’s not meant to be a trick question, but it often feels that way, right? 

My clients come to me for a change, but they often don’t know what change they are seeking. 

They want to have a different experience in their motherhood, but they aren’t sure what that experience looks like. 

They want to make money in their business and become more confident, but they aren’t sure how.  

They want to feel differently about their life, but they don’t know how to make that happen.

They can’t hear their authentic voice or rely on their own helpful thoughts.

We spend so much time drowning out our own authentic voice because we are often too scared, too worried, or too consumed about what others think.  

Let’s see if you can hear your voice? 

If someone gifted you $5000 and a week of extra time and you could do whatever you wanted without any consequences, what would you do?  

Would you: 

start a business? 

hire a coach? 

have another child?

go back to school? 

start a diet, a mastermind, or write a book?

begin to train for a race?

sign up for a conference?  

That’s the voice that you should pay more attention to.  That’s the voice that’s taking you places. 

We spend more time listening to the voice that tells us we are crazy, that we would fail, that we aren’t smart enough, or that we don’t have enough time.

That voice keeps us playing small.  Keeps us on the same playing field we’ve always been without the satisfaction and real growth we desire. 

You may have a lot of self-defeating thoughts to work through before you can hear that voice, but it’s in there. 

I can help you hear it, belive, and stay focused on it .  

I would love to show you how to start listening to the voice that helps you grow, how to tune into the voice that allows you to follow your dreams.  

Let’s make that voice even louder, more apparent, and more real.

If you know you want to feel less overwhelmed, less stressed, less restricted in your motherhood, and your business, but not sure how, let’s chat.  

I can show you how you can grow your capacities in your motherhood and your business without sacrificing your health, relationships, motherhood, or sleep.  

Click here to schedule a free 50-minute exploratory session with me so we can discover your voice, learn how to trust it, and create a plan to make that voice your reality.