We Got Robbed While Sleeping

I am terrified of the dark.  

As a young child to HS senior, checking my closet, under my bed, and sleeping with a hall light was part of my nightly routine. I got so much braver about the dark during my college days; it was awesome!    

A little over a year into being married, we were robbed in the middle of the night. I woke up to loud yelling, a slick black-gloved hand holding a gun, and the other hand shining a flashlight. It was exactly like the movies, but worse.  

I was paralyzed!

We had no phone in the room, and my subtle nudges and delicate whispering didn’t wake my husband.  After that event, the fear of the dark came back even more potent. I was afraid of going to sleep in my own home. 

Fast forward a few years to when my husband was in PA school. I had an 18-month-old and a 3-week old, both getting up in the middle of the night to eat.  My husband’s OBGYN rotation was reassigned last minute. He would be 5 hours away in a small town for eight weeks. Meaning, I would be home alone, at night, in the dark, with two babies waking me up, forcing me to walk through a dark empty house, make bottles and say up feeding them while my mind tells me a horrendous story about every sound I hear.  

I was honestly afraid that before my husband came back after the eight weeks, I would be admitted into a psych ward. I mean, one can only go so many nights without sleep while caring for two babies that need your attention before you snap. I was sacred and full of panic and tears, and I had five days to figure it out.

I didn’t think getting over my fear overnight (no pun intended) was possible, so I had to ask myself, what else could I do.  

I used my fear to take massive action. 

I went to the doctor on Monday morning, told her the situation, and was prescribed some heavy sleeping pill. Um yeah, that’s not going to work. I have two babies that are waking up a few times a night and no other adult in the house. A sleeping pill wasn’t the answer. 

On Tuesday, I starting calling every single OBGYN in the local area.  

You guys… I made cold calls!! I told them I was representing St. Francis University (my husband’s school) and that I was looking to place a male PA student for an 8-week clinical rotation. I talked to so many clinics and left so many messages.  

On Thursday morning, I made the golden call. I found a Medical provider willing to take my husband on as a PA student. This good news for me was good news for the university because placing male students with male providers was challenging, and I secured a spot. 

When my husband’s school found out what I did, they were in disbelief, a bit shocked, and very excited. They said three things to my husband. 

  1. Your wife is brave (little did they know why I was calling)
  2. Please don’t mess this rotation up; we need a male medical provider in OBGYN
  3. Don’t tell any other students what your wife did and tell her not to do it again. 

My fear was so real, but I didn’t let it stop me from taking control of my life. This fear drove me to make cold calls as a university repressive to create a different outcome.

Fear can either hold you back or propel you forward.

I can’t say that I’ve faced all my fears this way, head-on, and completely brave, but I have learned from this experience. 

We have all the power to create the life we want to live.  

Yes, I could have decided to get over the fear, stop being scared of the dark, “man up,” so to speak.  But you know what? I DID “man up,” it just looked different than maybe the “typical” path one would assume or suggest I take to solve this problem.  

How we approach our life, how we tackle our fears will look differently for everyone. There’s no right or wrong way to face fear.  

The best way to handle fear is to ask yourself questions. 

> How can I not let this fear keep me stuck?  

> How can I creatively move forward even with this fear around?

> Is there another way to create the life I desire even if I am sacred of ________ (fill in the blank) 

> Is it possible to move past it, work through it, and declare it something that’s not going to stop me?

> How can I get rid of this fear while working towards my goal? 

I know you’re dying to know, so here’s the rest of the story. 
– I am not currently scared of the dark, like not at all. I know it’s very situational for me, If a neighbor was robbed or a child was heaven forbid taken from our neighborhood, the fear would again become very real.

– Yes, we were robbed in the middle of the night. A neighbor had reported a car with suspicious activity at about 1 am. When the same neighbor got up about 5 am to head to work, they saw the same suspicious vehicle and called the Police. While they were talking with the Police, the group of men robbing my home left with our car, full of the things they had taken from our house. Our neighbor attempted to run in the pouring rain to catch the men!  

– The gun, the flashlight, that was the Police. The robbers had left all the doors in our home completely wide open. I initially woke to yelling, but didn’t know what it was at the time. It was the Mesa Police yelling and knocking at the front door to announce themselves. They didn’t think it was possible to sleep through something like that, so they assumed no one was home. The gun and flashlight appeared in my room three different times. The first time they were checking the home and saw us. The second time was them making sure that they really saw people and that we weren’t dead. The third time they yell, “this is the Mesa Police. You’ve been robbed. Get up and meet me us in the kitchen.” 

– My husband knocked the socks off of that provider, and several other students were able to have the option for a local rotation. Also, my husband was the valedictorian of his PA school. Not relevant, but I’m still pretty dang proud of him, even if he had left the garage door open that night, giving the robbers full, easy access to our home.  

Write down your fears.

Write down what’s holding you back and then ask yourself the questions above.  

Fear can be part of our life, but it doesn’t have to stop us from creating the life we want.

Experience Is The Best Knowledge

What are your summer plans? 

This summer, my family and I were going to go on a cruise for the first time. 

I could have just booked the first one that popped up after my google search and hoped for the best.  

Instead, I asked people that had experience with cruises all about them. 

I asked what they thought made a great cruise, what they liked, and what made it less than great.  

I ask how they planned it, what agency they used, and who was easy to work with. 

I found out their opinions for stateside and foreign cruises. 

I inquired about boarding differences between the west coast and the south.  

I talked with people that have experiences with cruises, what worked, what didn’t, what they would do differently, their best advice, what to do and not todo, and the “how-to” for the most successful overall cruise experience.

This is no different from hiring a coach.  

Hiring a coach that has experience where you currently are and has figured out how to get where you want to be already makes for the best knowledge.

A coach will get you there faster, with less stress, less failure, more clarity, and success!

A coach will guide and help you to have the best experience and create the life you want.  

If you’re trying to build a business while parenting children, I’ve been there.  

I built my successful life coaching business while parenting three young daughters and teaching school full-time. 

I know the challenges and struggles you are facing.  

I know the time constraints and the demands of motherhood you are feeling. 

I know the shame, guilt, exhaustion, disorganization, and overwhelm that keeps you up at night.  

If you want to go from feeling confused, like you don’t have enough time, and out of control, to thriving in both your motherhood and business, making money in a way that you love,  I know the best way to get you there. 

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I will show you how to create a balanced life you love without sacrificing your health, life goals, motherhood, sleep, or relationships. 

Will It Happen The Way We Expect?

My friend mentioned last night that she’s free all next week and maybe we should invite 2020 to show up the way we expected. 

I told her that it won’t be like anything we expected, however, in time, I think it will be even better than we could have dreamed. 

Speaking of expectations, there was a long stretch in my life when I wanted to get my PDH in Psychology. I never achieved it,and here’s what I was telling myself when I didn’t pursue it. 

– I would score too low and the GRE… I’m not smart enough.

– I would never get accepted into a program anyway.

– My husband is too busy climbing the cooperate ladder, he doesn’t have time to support me more education. 

– My kids are too little, they need me.

– As they became older, I told myself, I needed to save that money for their college education, it would be irresponsible to spend it on another degree. 

– I also told myself, good moms stay home and raise their kids they aren’t off going to college and getting corporate jobs

Do any of these excuses come up for you when you’re talking yourself out of doing more?  

Recently, I was a speaker at the
Purpose Project Online Summit. 

I talked about how to make the time and any season WORK for pursuing your dreams. 

I take you through a self-discovery that will leave you with clarity about how you are currently using your time, how you are thinking about your time, and how you could be using it even more effectively to help you take small steps towards fulfilling your desire in the season of life that you’re currently in. 

If you have a dream, but not currently fully pursuing it, this video had inspiration and ideas just for you. 

If you have a dream, you are pursuing it, but you feel overwhelmed, confused, and unhappy a lot of the times, this video has action steps and clarity for you too.   

There’s a lot to discover about yourself in this video.  It’s only 20 minutes, so I really encourage you to create the time to give it a listen. 

Watch the video here.

I’ve created a little worksheet to walk you through the video and provide you with more clarity. 

You can access and PDF worksheet here.

If you found this video helpful and want to take your self-discovery to another level, please feel free to schedule a free exploratory session with me.  We simply have a conversation about what’s going well in your life and business, what’s not working, and how we can solve for the things you want better.  It’s like talking to a really good friend that has valuable insight and knows about business building while being a mom.  

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